Dating cancer guy
So, while I can't say it's been particularly "nice" to meet you, I did want to send you this valentine of sorts to let you know that you've undoubtedly made me -- and us -- stronger. I hope I never see you again, Sarah I'm a 22-year-old and this isn't my first bout with cancer.I am now in my seventh iteration of the most crucial battle of my life.None of these guys started screaming at me, they THANKED me and said they would get tested – none of them had it -YAY!!!! And while I’m not an expert in herpes, per se, I do know a number of people who have it, and continue to lead rich, happy, limitless dating lives. Because one second you’re saying “No way” to a guy with herpes, and the next, you’re praying that a guy doesn’t judge you for this one minor thing. According to Herpes.com, 50-80 percent of the American adult population has oral herpes. The scariest part of this whole thing is the staggering ignorance about herpes – a disease that undoubtedly affects someone that you know. Well, let’s just say that I have close friends, clients, and ex-girlfriends who have genital herpes, and none of them are traumatized, hospitalized or ostracized because of it. Just know that if you have the disease, you may be entirely asymptomatic, which would mean that you could potentially transmit it without knowing.And if you do have symptoms, they are easily controlled with the use of drugs.Of course, I'm not allowing myself to think that we don't have forever.You are easier to get rid of in testicular form, even if you persistently knock on our door. I used to have this fear about him, that he couldn't possibly be right for me simply because we met in high school.We've had straight-faced conversations about fertility when before I would only laugh off the idea of children.
It is my hope that after reading this, other young men, like my Valentine, won't wait any longer.I still cringe at the term "high school sweethearts." But my dating anxiety comes now from a world of much less-familiar territory.We've learned words I never thought I'd utter -- "orchiectomy" being the most jarring.If ok, want to jump on my soapbox for a second, if anyone reading this has herpes, do the right thing, let people know. As far as genital herpes goes, we’re talking 20% of the population.
One of the most difficult things I had to do was call former boyfriends I may have exposed (think it was dormant in my system for quite sometime, I honestly did not know). I think all the readers should take a second to put themselves in your shoes for a moment. That’s 50 MILLION people, a majority of whom don’t even know they’re infected.
And while the doctors say you've let him be for now, my head swirls with statistics.